Today is the day of love and hearts. It’s Valentine’s Day and I am wondering how many of you out there are hoping for the “right” gift from your honey. You know that gift that means to you that you are truly loved. Maybe it is flowers, a card, chocolate or maybe something completely different like an adventure in nature. Will you be disappointed at the end of the day today?
I can remember wanting the Valentine’s gift that I thought of as “right” that would make me know and feel that my relationship was ok and I was loved. So much of that was about my expectation and not the real intention of the day.
If you are in a relationship right now or not, what meaning are you giving to Valentine’s Day? Does it make you feel worse because you aren’t experiencing what you really want in relationships? Are you making that about you and who you aren’t or about your partner and who they aren’t? At the end of Valentine’s day are you going to be beating yourself up or beating up your partner?!!
I want to encourage you on Valentine’s Day to understand that who you are inside, in your heart is perfect. You don’t need someone else to make you ok. You already are. Now, don’t get me wrong. Having a partner and honey to share your life with is a beautiful gift and I believe that it is possible to have a sacred relationship that supports and creates a space for you to GROW AND EXPAND, not to make you VALUABLE AND OK. Your value and worth is inherently yours apart from what anyone else can give you and when you know that, really know it, your relationship becomes the vehicle for growth and expansion instead of the oxygen mask to make you feel valuable.
So today, give yourself a Valentine and celebrate YOU. The real you. The you that is perfect right where you are, even if you don’t see it or feel it right now. Looking for that outside of you, even in your partner, will always leave you empty on some level. Until you give that unconditional love to yourself first, you will most likely be looking for someone else to give it to you and that could take a long time.
Much love, Cindy
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